I was raped by jasen buncy from apt e across from me and he b raped me on his bed. I couldn’t even to move and he wouldn’t let me scream for help, i said no and he touched me with his hands and lips too.

So while the act of committing rape should be then another word for pain and evil, the act of being raped must trigger in us the recognition that the person in front of us may have had their very humanity damaged.

We don’t have an emotional and spiritual hospital program for healing from rape, but we should. Frankly, for both parties.

And we must begin by affirming that those who were raped are not at all at fault. That must be first.

However, as the parent of three boys in college, and the uncle of two other college-aged nephews, there is a power to claim “rape” as a morning-after decision that needs to be factored in as well. Life is not simple in these affairs, much as we wish it were.