Comments on: My Plain Mennonite Heritage and Self Reliance https://lucindajkinsinger.com/my-plain-mennonite-heritage-and-self-reliance/ Movement, Color, Sound, Story Mon, 28 Nov 2022 18:21:42 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.3 By: Sarah Groce https://lucindajkinsinger.com/my-plain-mennonite-heritage-and-self-reliance/#comment-7846 Mon, 28 Nov 2022 18:21:42 +0000 https://lucindajkinsinger.com/?p=20963#comment-7846 Those are very important values to teach! Growing up in a Christian home but still in the world, independence was taught but from a very different perspective; not necessarily one I’d care to pass on to my daughters, as it is more from a “do it yourself” “prove as a female you’re just as good” mindset. More emphasis was put on learning independence as a woman than the qualities of being humble and submissive in respectful attitudes, and that has proven to create numerous obstacles within the years of my marriage. I say no a lot to my girls rather than sit back and observe. This is something I’m actively working on, as well as being more submissive and honorable as a wife. We’ve got the hardworking bit down, but I want my girls to learn other Godly feminine qualities that are minimized in society. Thank you for doing what you do and writing on these topics!

]]> By: Lucinda J https://lucindajkinsinger.com/my-plain-mennonite-heritage-and-self-reliance/#comment-7845 Mon, 28 Nov 2022 17:36:38 +0000 https://lucindajkinsinger.com/?p=20963#comment-7845 In reply to Bethany.

Asking questions and inviting dialogue, that sounds so healthy and something I want to work toward as Annalise gets older.

]]> By: Bethany https://lucindajkinsinger.com/my-plain-mennonite-heritage-and-self-reliance/#comment-7844 Mon, 28 Nov 2022 17:30:31 +0000 https://lucindajkinsinger.com/?p=20963#comment-7844 I think this is such a valuable thing to teach! It’s so important for children to learn cause and effect/ responsibility and consequences. From a young age, it is so helpful to ask questions and invite dialogue, rather than to just set boundaries and make rules. Expectations are a part of this, I think. For example, I try to teach my school age children that I expect them to be responsible for their homework and studying for tests, etc. Sometimes that means letting them get a bad grade or face the consequences of forgetting an assignment. It’s a lot harder, in the moment, to step back and not micromanage, but you make your life (and theirs) so much easier in the long run!

Enjoying this series!

]]> By: Lucinda J https://lucindajkinsinger.com/my-plain-mennonite-heritage-and-self-reliance/#comment-7842 Mon, 28 Nov 2022 15:19:57 +0000 https://lucindajkinsinger.com/?p=20963#comment-7842 In reply to Hannah.

Oh my goodness! That makes so much sense, and I understand your feelings completely. As much as I like to talk about self-reliance and how I am trying to foster it, at the end of the day, I just am and try to care for my daughter as best I know how.

]]> By: Hannah https://lucindajkinsinger.com/my-plain-mennonite-heritage-and-self-reliance/#comment-7841 Mon, 28 Nov 2022 15:15:52 +0000 https://lucindajkinsinger.com/?p=20963#comment-7841 This is such a tough one for me when it comes to my son. My hubby and I dealt with infertility for 11 years before being able to have our sweet boy, so it was and still can be very hard for me to let him be in situations that may be unsafe. I guess all the years of hard work I had put into trying to get pregnant and knowing I wouldn’t be able to have another child, I wanted to protect my precious gift! Now he is 13 years old and 6 foot 1 inches tall so he is hardly that small baby/toddler but my mama’s heart still has to work hard at letting him go and explore the world without worry or fuss.

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