Comments on: Miscarriage Is a Private Affair https://lucindajkinsinger.com/miscarriage-is-a-private-affair/ Movement, Color, Sound, Story Wed, 16 Sep 2020 11:59:04 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.3 By: Lucinda J https://lucindajkinsinger.com/miscarriage-is-a-private-affair/#comment-5176 Wed, 16 Sep 2020 11:59:04 +0000 https://lucindajkinsinger.com/?p=19369#comment-5176 ]]> In reply to Sarah N..

Sarah thank you for these kind words. We have also named our little one: Misty Love. I agree it is healing to have a name. God continue to be with you also as you grieve. Thank you for reaching out. ❤️

]]> By: Sarah N. https://lucindajkinsinger.com/miscarriage-is-a-private-affair/#comment-5173 Tue, 15 Sep 2020 17:54:03 +0000 https://lucindajkinsinger.com/?p=19369#comment-5173 Thank you for sharing, Lucinda! After just having our second miscarriage (first one was so early we hardly even realized at the time that it was a miscarriage), I’ve come to realize how much it hurts to let our children go whom we’d never met…And then still have none to hold right now. We found it healing to name our children (we used gender neutral names since they were still so young) which feels like it gives them an identity and validated the reality of their existence. Now we continue to learn how to move on in hope for the future. I’m working on learning to let myself grieve without automatically trying to ignore the fact that they existed and then died, so that it doesn’t hurt as much. We’ve been so thankful for a caring and understanding family and church community. It’s been so helpful. God is kind and we’ve felt His presence. Praying for you both as you grieve and find comfort. Thanks again for sharing!

]]> By: Sarah N. https://lucindajkinsinger.com/miscarriage-is-a-private-affair/#comment-5172 Tue, 15 Sep 2020 17:52:12 +0000 https://lucindajkinsinger.com/?p=19369#comment-5172 Thank you for sharing, Lucinda! After just having our second miscarriage (first one was so early we hardly even realized at the time that it was a miscarriage), I’ve come to realize how much it hurts to let our children go whom we’d never met…And then still have none to hold right now. We found it healing to name our children (we used gender neutral names since they were still so young) which feels like it gives them an identity and validated the reality of their existence. Now we continue to learn how to move on in hope for the future. I’m working on learning to let myself grieve without automatically trying to ignore the fact that they existed and then died, so that it doesn’t hurt as much. We’ve been so thankful for a caring and understanding family and church community. It’s been so helpful. God is kind and we’ve felt His presence.

]]> By: Lucinda Miller https://lucindajkinsinger.com/miscarriage-is-a-private-affair/#comment-5159 Mon, 14 Sep 2020 10:21:35 +0000 https://lucindajkinsinger.com/?p=19369#comment-5159 In reply to robert bristow-johnson.

Thank you for your care.

]]> By: robert bristow-johnson https://lucindajkinsinger.com/miscarriage-is-a-private-affair/#comment-5157 Mon, 14 Sep 2020 04:43:15 +0000 https://lucindajkinsinger.com/?p=19369#comment-5157 I am sorry this happened, Luci and Ivan.

May God comfort you both.

]]> By: I Met An Old Lady - Lucinda J Kinsinger https://lucindajkinsinger.com/miscarriage-is-a-private-affair/#comment-5048 Thu, 06 Aug 2020 13:34:01 +0000 https://lucindajkinsinger.com/?p=19369#comment-5048 […] we lost our small one (you can read that post here), I have been thinking a lot more about Charlene, my darling little old lady friend who died. I like […]

]]> By: Lucinda Miller https://lucindajkinsinger.com/miscarriage-is-a-private-affair/#comment-5039 Mon, 27 Jul 2020 23:18:10 +0000 https://lucindajkinsinger.com/?p=19369#comment-5039 In reply to Betty Schlabach.

Yes, Betty. Amen and amen.

]]> By: Betty Schlabach https://lucindajkinsinger.com/miscarriage-is-a-private-affair/#comment-5037 Fri, 24 Jul 2020 21:37:35 +0000 https://lucindajkinsinger.com/?p=19369#comment-5037 Luci and Ivan , so sorry for your pain and loss. We too have several precious angels we long to be reunited with when the Lord takes us home. I carried a deep grief for a long time after each loss. In looking back many years after, I wonder if it would have brought a greater healing if I had been open to sharing the pain. I am nearing my 56th birthday, and often anticipate with joy the thought of seeing them when my turn comes to go home! Our son and daughter-in-law recently miscarried twins! Again there is grief mingled with joy. Sadness for never getting to hold and snuggle them here on earth. Yet there is also a sweetness in having family and loved ones in the very presence of the living God of Heaven. Somehow it brings heaven closer. Many times my thoughts go to heaven. I think of those gone on before. What are my loved ones seeing? Hearing? Experiencing this very moment? God is good. His plan is good. My babies are so joyful and happy with Him. Someday we can be gathered around His throne together!

]]> By: Tiana https://lucindajkinsinger.com/miscarriage-is-a-private-affair/#comment-5024 Thu, 16 Jul 2020 16:45:25 +0000 https://lucindajkinsinger.com/?p=19369#comment-5024 💜]]> In reply to Darla.

I cry, too. 💜💜

]]> By: Danette Martin https://lucindajkinsinger.com/miscarriage-is-a-private-affair/#comment-5023 Thu, 16 Jul 2020 02:18:12 +0000 https://lucindajkinsinger.com/?p=19369#comment-5023 Dear Lucinda and Ivan, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I hope that telling others about your wee one that didn’t stay will bring you comfort as we all grieve together. We have two tiny ones in heaven, as well. I miscarried at 11 weeks with one of them, and at 17 weeks with the other. The latter was a baby boy whom we could hold briefly and introduce to our other children. It gives me delight to think of Jesus holding these little ones close, but I still weep with the ache of loss sometimes. (It’s been 25 years and 19 years since my miscarriages) Hugs to you!

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