Thanks, Daniel. I appreciate your thoughts.

One of the most helpful people in my life was an old Minister who has now gone on to Glory. And this was when I was in my early twenties still dealing with the fallout of sexual abuse and sexual confusion. He told me that everyone has a sin that was so easily beset them if they let it. He was of course referring to the scripture in Hebrews that tells us to lay aside every weight in the sin that does so easily beset us. This was helpful for two reasons. The first is that it placed same-sex attractions in the proper light of a temptation pattern. The second reason it was helpful is because he said it squarely in the context of everyone having something that would overcome them if they let it. Not just me. He did not make me feel like a pariah. He basically lumped us all together. We all need a Savior, and the Savior is strong and can help us and keep us above temptation. But we shouldn’t feel shame about the temptation itself.

Thank you, Trenda. I so agree that openness is important and healing.

Not asexual. :) But for me, my sexual desire goes hand in hand with an emotional connection and relationship. I think for many people, sexuality is not set in stone. We learn responses and emotions according to what we have experienced sexually.