Comments on: A Broken Performance

By: Lucinda J

Lucinda J — Sat, 02 Apr 2022 19:07:35 +0000

In reply to Stephen.

I think you might be interested in Asher Witmer’s blog. https://asherwitmer.com/hello/

He discusses many issues involving the church and Christian living, and from what I gather, you have a similar perspective and interests.

By: Lucinda J

Lucinda J — Sat, 02 Apr 2022 18:59:37 +0000

In reply to Stephen. Stephen, just reading this comment again. Thank you for an in-depth and thoughtful reply.

By: Dena

Dena — Sat, 02 Apr 2022 18:39:06 +0000

In reply to Stephen. This conforming to be holy is the most important thing!! When we grasp this, all the other things are not a chore ..they come from love for God!!

By: Lucinda J. Kinsinger

Lucinda J. Kinsinger — Thu, 31 Mar 2022 13:14:47 +0000

In reply to Judy Roth. Good advice, Judy. Thanks. You did say it before, but I need to hear it again. :)

By: Judy Roth

Judy Roth — Wed, 30 Mar 2022 20:24:52 +0000

Thank you, Luci, for your honesty. Amazing how we can beat ourselves up in many different ways. Regarding the challenges of parenting, maybe I’ve said this before on here, but I wish I could tell every new parent that they might as well turn in their ‘Perfect Parent’ card right off the bat….we all try so hard to be one in the beginning, but we might as well give it up right away…much more relaxing….:)

By: Lucinda J

Lucinda J — Wed, 30 Mar 2022 16:37:12 +0000

In reply to Wendy W.. That's interesting, Wendy. I have also in the past not created good boundaries and allowed others to verbally abuse me and took the blame for it. But I didn't think of the two tendencies as related. That's a good insight. Thank you! And yes, amen! I will continue to grow, praise Jesus.

By: Wendy W.

Wendy W. — Tue, 29 Mar 2022 15:47:07 +0000

In reply to Wendy W.. I meant "by ALLOWING them to take advantage of me"...

By: Wendy W.

Wendy W. — Tue, 29 Mar 2022 15:43:36 +0000

What you write about performing/perfection is something that I have lived with, and have been able to grow so much in. But lately I am finally understanding how along with that, being hard on myself, I did not have good boundaries, and allowed others to be harsh and critical of me, also. And I wasn’t helping them in their own life’s issues by not allowing them to take advantage of me, because deep inside I didn’t think I was worth being treated well, anyway.
Thankfully, we’re never too old to learn and change, in growing to be like Jesus!

By: Lucinda J

Lucinda J — Fri, 25 Mar 2022 12:26:17 +0000

In reply to Trish. Yes!

By: Trish

Trish — Fri, 25 Mar 2022 08:07:51 +0000

Thank you, Luci. I’ve been here, at least my own “here.” There is something about acknowledging our own brokenness that banishes pride. Suddenly, we feel very human, like everyone else. And for me at least, that brings relief, knowing I don’t have to live up to some impossible super-human standard I’ve created for myself.